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Chapter Ten

Changing Your Reality

 

The critical factor in change is that there must be a need for a change as well as the power to execute the change. This requires a special interaction of our personal powers with the external powers to create that reality which is needed.

We are familiar with changing our reality by introducing a strong need into our life. As an example we can join a parachuting club and experience a need as we step out of the airplane during our first jump. Other methods include such things as rock climbing, bungee jumping, picking a fight, volunteering for what no one else will chance, or doing such things as illicit drugs or sex. The majority of people choose a lesser need such as desiring to know the ending of an exciting book or movie or how a sporting event will go. Some choose a sexual encounter, hard rock music, an argument, a debate or discussion with others. These techniques do work, but only for a short period of time, and the resulting world is very limited in scope. 

The largest problem in all of the above methods is that as we repeat the stimulation, it quickly becomes less and less effective. As for instance, the second ride on a roller coaster is hardly a thrill at all, and the continual replay of music or the re-reading of a book almost becomes boring. The result of this habituation to stimulation is countered by attempting to find even more stimulation of the same type. This pursuit makes us a book worm, television couch potato, a drug addict, a sports or celebrity fanatic, a cantankerous argumentative associate, or a true faddist or cultist. As our world dulls and narrows down, we probably try harder and harder until our world shrivels down to only that chosen pursuit, and we end up clinging tightly to it as our only enjoyment in life.

This paradox of shutting down our world because of a pursuit to open our world is the direct result of our conditioning as to what reality and life is. The chief error is in the societal implant that the power, joy, and excitement of life are only found in the external world. Without understanding the process or what is required to change our world, we tend to cling to what we think is the external source of the change.

Discovering and understanding the process and source of the controlled changing of our world became perhaps the chief goal of the early Christians as well as the Mystics before them. 

This controlled change will be shown to require the construction of a new world and the washing away of our old world such that we are reborn into the new one. This process can be seen to be similar in some ways to the questionable methods of looking for dangerous pastimes that overwhelm us. The old techniques however, can be construed to have consisted of using the Eastern techniques to find an inner source of direction rather than that obtained from our conditioned, chattering brain. The Eastern techniques also allow us to separate ourselves from what we have been conditioned to believe the outer world is and to see it as it really is. When the world can be seen as changeable and a reflection of that which is within ourselves, then we can choose a new role and purpose in our life. This system of choice can be contrasted with our training on being perfect, doing things right, judging the outer powers and being concerned about acceptance by the outer world, and, of course, feeling guilty. All of which keeps us tightly controlled and unchanged.

Some of the esoteric Eastern techniques also teach the increasing of super-grade energy so that a greater range in realities can be obtained or that a chosen reality can be Quickened to increase the experiencing. These techniques are concentrated upon increasing the lower gut muscle activities through various churning exercises and learning to stimulate the activity through special exhalations such as normally encountered in a moment of challenge when there is a strong forced exhalation and a shift into lower abdominal breathing. These techniques are beyond the scope of this book, however, and references to these can be found in the author’s book, The Golden Triangle.

Before the discussion of changing ourselves is continued, it may be helpful to point out that we have been conditioned not to change our world and ourselves. It is all right to have the momentary thrill of jumping, orgasm, or altruistic effort, but we are conditioned to be very concerned with any change that might possibly be permanent. For instance, we are concerned about being acceptable to our family and friends and they, on the other hand, expect us to be the person that they want us to be. Our employer also expects us to be what the organizational chart says we should be. Our friends have the added requirement of us always being the person that meshes perfectly with their usual games. Nobody, especially us, really wants us to change except perhaps to “improve” ourselves or to become closer to the concept of what we are supposed to be. There are large numbers of people and organizations that exist to help us “improve” ourselves, but although we might find “improvement” for a while, we seem to drift rapidly back into our old world and self.

The chief technique for bypassing our conditioned responses that prevent us from changing ourselves is to instead change our outer world. When we encounter a new world and situation, we are also conditioned to adapt to socially fit in. The change must be more than the physical setting, however. For instance, in moving out of town most people find the same type of objectionable characters living there as were in their old locations, and they face the same type of social problems. Changing the backdrops or scenery of our play does not change the plot of the play or the role that we must play. We must somehow change our whole world, self, and plot.

Before we cry “Impossible!” consider that we have already changed our world at least to some extent a number of times. We have both improved it or made it measurably worse on different occasions. As an example, we can remember waking up and staggering out of bed, stubbing our toes in the process, finding that we are out of hot water, burning our breakfast, and discovering that our car has a flat tire. From there our day gets worse, even our friends antagonize us, and it seems as if we are sinking into a lonely and brutal world. We have, however, also experienced the perfect day in which nothing can go wrong, everything is buoyant, uplifting, joyous and even our enemies are supportive and kind. The same people are in both of these days or worlds, and if we ask them how they managed to change so drastically, they will, of course, suggest that we need psychiatric care. This experience of two different worlds should raise all kinds of questions, yet surprisingly it does not for the majority of people. Most people pass the experience off as getting out of the wrong side of the bed, or having good fortune on the good day. In our modern highly materialistic society, it is not considered possible to change our world such as we have  individually experienced, yet it can be changed and changed far more than we have ever dreamed of.

Changing our world is much different than improving ourselves. Improving ourselves is dictated by some perceived social need. Changing our world in many ways requires making an effort in exactly the opposite direction that we have been taught to take for acquiring new controls or skills. The terms for personal transformation used by the ancient teachers have been trivialized and altered over the centuries, but if taken seriously, they can still give an idea of what is required. The term used by the early Christians was to be completely reborn. As to how this was to take place, the model of being infused with an overpowering spirit that would change our whole nature was used. The change produced by some inner force was universal and all its advocates taught that it was released from the bowels, the lower abdomen, or from within the sexual region. The Book of John in the Bible discusses living waters[1] that flow out of the belly[2] that transform. These living waters are similar to the Indian notion of the inner fluid called soma[3]. The idea of some inner spirit changing our world was symbolized in ancient writings by the changing of juice or water into wine or changing flour into bread dough with a small amount of a fermenting agent such as yeast. The alchemists used the model of a long, arduous process of changing lead into gold as a model of the conversion process that required a “philosopher’s stone.” 

When it is understood that the power to change is contained within ourselves, then a universal methodology can be developed from the early Mystical schools. The following table contains only ten items rephrased to exclude the original religious or social connotations. This rephrasing is necessary since almost everyone has learned to interpret religious terms in a very rigid and limited definition, and even those from a religion of which we are not a member. It is also helpful if we can forget the aspect of this table as being taken from religious rules and accept the possibility that this table is a basic psychological and physiological listing of transformational requirements and changes.

  

  1. We must first master the laws of society.

  2. In mastering the laws we find that we are in bondage to the laws.

  3. In seeking freedom we require the union and bondage with others.

  4. In seeking union we find the necessity to fully live for or with the individuals we encounter.[4]

  5. In becoming involved with others, we find overpowering challenge and opposition.

  6. In facing the challenge and opposition, we find Knowledge and Quickening.

  7. The Knowledge and Quickening are perceived as rising up from the bowels.

  8. With Knowledge and Quickening, special supernormal powers are found.

  9. These powers provide the means to find freedom, joy, and evolution of world and self.

  10. The Two powers[5] can then be directed and united to form any chosen world.

Almost everyone understands the necessity and reason for mastering society’s laws, ranging from being potty trained to being successful in driving on a crowded super highway. Following the law is generally summarized as starting with being good followed with doing good. This step is initiated and controlled by institutions beginning with the family or parents.

As we become ingrained with following the rules and laws of civilized behavior, we also become habituated to following the rules. This results in being unaware of the extent and depth of the training and conditioning and its control over our behavior and responses. We become as a programmed robot in terms of most responses to the social world. We are don’t notice how we automatically respond to a greeting and how we change in the presence of our parents or an authority figure. We have a deep ingrained control that limits our response in society as, for instance, the impossibility of taking our clothes off on a public street[6]. We are generally unaware of how we automatically respond to the dress or mannerisms of strangers, other than noticing our approval, distrust, or even instant dislike as we first meet them. Our response to our friends, family, and associates becomes very rigid and defined without our awareness of our bondage to the social conditioning and laws[7].

The modern high technological world and the advances in human comfort and care require a clockwork precision in the interaction of individuals and groups that can only be maintained with strict Law. We can become very much aware of the necessity of Law as we race down a crowded freeway at seventy miles an hour amidst other speeding vehicles. The simple act of going to a store and purchasing a single desired item requires the precise and timed interaction of hundreds of individuals. It also requires our usage of special skills involved with our getting to the store and the selection as well as in the purchase of the item. In order to fully appreciate the complex laws that govern the modern individual, consider some great historical person from centuries past faced with driving to a mall to purchase something to eat or wear. Compared to this person, a teenaged dropout in the ghetto has skills and wisdom that would appear God-like to an ancient king or queen. At home this “disadvantaged” youth has the power of many slaves that heat his apartment, cook his food, produce light, carry hot and cold water, etc.

Most of the readers of this book attempted to be good when they were young. Individuals who are eager to grow and evolve start off their lives being perfectly good. We were probably so good that people commented on our goodness and we learned in time to become proud of how we followed all of the rules and laws. This continued until the day that we suddenly became suspicious that we were sometimes missing out on rewards and goodies by being good. In fact, many times those who had broken some of the rules seemed to get more goodies than we did. At this time we started becoming aware that our parents did not follow all of the rules and, in fact, would break many of them, as, for instance, in speeding in traffic. We also noted, however, that the damage had already been done, we were good despite ourselves. We could not always state what we really believed or felt, and, in fact, we would agree to requests that we really did not want to do. We found that we were generally good even though we did not always feel like being good.

As we attempted to prove ourselves free from constraints of society, we may have started with being independent and becoming a “lone wolf” or openly rebelling. We avoided following the crowd or doing that which everyone else was doing. This avoidance generally started with the things that we criticized our parents for doing. We may also have started to try and do new things and in the process found that we were capable of doing surprisingly well and amazed ourselves at how well we could do. However, after isolating ourselves, we eventually awoke to the realization that no matter how great a thing it is that we accomplish, it is nothing if we can’t tell someone about it. When we did find others to share with, then we could find joy.

The step of evolution in finding closeness with others generally took the form of finding a “best friend” in whom we could confide and share our life. Unfortunately, we also experienced conflicts with our friend as we became jealous and fearful for our relationship. This jealousy and fear of losing our best friend resulted in the development of rules that minimized any disruption in the friendship. As for instance, we quickly learned that certain subjects could not be broached or that certain things were not to be shared. As the friendship deepened or matured, rules were developed in how we approached each other that included even our demeanor. We both attempted to provide a solidarity in our relationship that necessarily made the relationship rigid and unchanging. The old “Golden Rule” is an example of this control, as we limit ourselves in doing to others what we would want them to do to you. This rule maintains status quo as we limit our actions and words to what we have learned is proper, correct, and expected. It is also this rule that we use in attempting to love our neighbor as ourselves that generally ends up with us being very proper and formal.

It is a sign of progress when we can perceive the bondage in a friendship since normally it is very well hidden. Many times it is first seen with a change in our world as we are forced to change our demeanor such as when we change our marital status or lifestyle. Our friend notices the change in our demeanor and generally objects to it or opposes it as a threat to the relationship. We may also be able to see the limitation in roles in other relationships, such as with our parents as we tire of being treated like a little dependent child while we attempt to play an adult role.

A break in our concept of how to relate to others may start with a chance conversation with someone on a bus, or in any situation where we are required to be in a strange place with individuals we do not know and will likely never again meet. What commonly happens is that we are able to enter very quickly into a very intimate discussion that leaves us with the feeling that we both know each other extremely well and perhaps better than anyone else in our current world. We find ourselves being overpowered and mesmerized by the depth of the thoughts of the other person and we in return find ourselves speaking with no hesitation and with a clarity of thought that we may not have ever before experienced. It may also remind us of our “first love” when we had similar reactions and gave up ourselves completely to our love. Later as we think over the encounter with the stranger, we may ask why we cannot have this openness with friends and loved ones. At this time we may discover that we have a fear of increased intimacy with a loved one because of the possibility of it providing some unknown conflict to the present relationship. However, this fear is not present with a stranger on a bus, because we are aware that we will never meet him or her again. Almost everyone is afraid of someone finding out about his or her inner self, although they have not the faintest idea as to what is in there, let alone what could be damaging if it were known.

As we grow confident of our mastery of the social world and its laws, we may find a few moments when we “let our hair down” or forget to worry about doing what is proper in the presence of others. We may “let ourselves go,” meaning that we forget the importance of our ego and pride. At these times we find an extreme enjoyment as we let the situation or encounter overpower us and carry us off into some common interaction. In retrospect, we may question whether we went too far or made a fool of ourselves, but almost never do we find that we suffered any loss of prestige or standing because of it. There is even a trend at the moment for many social leaders to attempt to “be themselves” or “to be informal” or allow themselves to become emotional or overpowered by their audience. It is being found to be conducive to selling or teaching.

In the above cases there is a large change taking place in our interaction with the outer world. Instead of attempting to be socially correct, we allow ourselves to be changed to become that which best interacts with the other individuals. Instead of expecting them to be impressed by us, we start to become that which is required or needed to enhance the interaction. We start to exist for them instead of expecting them to fulfill some expectation of our own. Performing artists are very familiar with this state as they become that person or role which the audience expects and interacts with. They live for their fans.

The above phrase of “living for” others is in agreement with the Greek word agapao that has been introduced in Chapter Three. To live for our neighbor implies the dedication to increase a nearby person’s success and happiness even at the expense of our own. In living for someone, that person or persons become more important and loved at that moment then even our family members. This process requires the quieting of the analytical thought process and then seeing[8] the other person without any preconceived concepts or as they really are[9]. Whether the person was our friend or enemy is of no consequence. We must open to the other person such that they have a power over us or we become fully aware of what they do and say[10]. The next step is to find a role within ourselves and then fully interact with this person.[11] This can be compared with the Biblical phrase to love God with all your heart and soul, which is nearly impossible for most Westerners to do. This will be discussed in more detail in Chapter Eleven.

As we fully open to another person’s life, problems, or experiences, we suddenly expand the scope of our own life to include a major piece of the other’s life as well as integrate ourselves with the mutual goals or dedication of the moment. The rise in supernormal powers as discussed in Chapter One, following a joint need or demand can be explained as being able to draw from sources beyond the self. In other words, living for someone else also adds their problems, joys, experiences and powers to our own, thereby vastly increasing our interaction with the world.

As we quiet the analytical side of our brain and fully open to someone else’s situation, we can find an immediate total knowledge or insight that is quite spectacular. This Knowledge is experienced without question, judgment, or thinking; it results in the state of complete acceptance of what is happening. This state will be discussed further in Chapter Eleven.

If the world of the other person requires action, we will experience the rise of Quickening with associated strong feelings in the bowels or gut such as tightening, churning, contractions, or heat. This activity in the gut changes the breathing such that the lower capacity of the lungs is used, thus energizing the body. The churning of the lower gut forces additional blood normally stored or pooled in the lower abdominal cavity to flow throughout the body and stimulates the abdominal organs. The lower abdominal pressure also exerts a corresponding pressure on the tailbone of the spine and hence increases the pressure in the spinal fluid up to the interior of the head. This increased pressure stimulates the brain as well as the regulatory organs at the top of the spine. The Quickening force, therefore, activates the entire body and brain to meet some oncoming demand or challenge and becomes the source for the supernormal powers and functioning of the body. 

As we open to the worlds of others and thus expand our own, we find that our old world can be seen as rather limited. We see that our concerns and worries are quite minimal and actually provide further stimulation to growth. As we gain more wisdom through our interaction with Knowledge, we become more able to view our own problems as objectively as we have viewed the problems of others.

Another very important result of the interacting with another’s world(s) is that we find that we are able to also change our own world and the roles that we play. It is in much the same way that a child can choose what game or what role they wish to play and become.


[1] John 4:10

[2] John 7:38

[3] See Chapter Fourteen, verse 18.

[4] There is an alternate to 3. and 4. Instead of reaching out to others, you can reach with total dedication to seeking understanding of life or some aspect of life. As you sink deeper and deeper into the seeking, overpowering challenges and oppositions appear as in item 5.

[5] Knowledge and Quickening, Law and Energy, Masculine and Feminine, or Sun and Moon

[6]  See verse 37, Chapter Fifteen.

[7] This aspect of growth has been very well explored by the Behaviorist and Humanistic schools of psychology.

[8] Or concentrating upon (dharana in Sanskrit).

[9] meditation (dhyana in Sanskrit).

[10] This is called samadhi in the ancient Eastern writings and is similar to children opening to the roles of other children in imaginary games.

[11] This is called samyama (sam: together, yama: controlling) and corresponds to the complete uniting in the game of the moment or of life.

 

 

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